I totally understand how extreme the title of this topic might sound to you. As we well know, the society we live in now recognizes couples living together before marriage as having made an inappropriate decision. However, with divorce on the rise in Korea, there are some positive points about living together before making the final commitment that should be examined.
When couples live together, they will not only discover more about each other, from the smallest habits to the biggest issues, but they will also have time to discuss their differences and figure out how to resolve conflicts that come from differences. Many couples end up divorcing because of the difference of their character combined with suddenly living together forever. If they had cohabitated first, they would have known and understood each other better.
Another benefit of living together is that couples can save money when they spend time together. It is easy to spot couples walking on the street who stop into an expensive coffee shop just because they need someplace to meet and talk. In this case, if they live together, they can save their money instead of spending it for some worthless reason and enjoy their time, doing the same in their own home.
Living together has both drawbacks and merits. I do not say that couples have to live together no matter what, but if we think about it in a positive way, we can see the good aspects. Living together can be helpful for couples before they make one of the most important decisions of their life. If couples rush into marriage and realize it was a mistake, it is quite difficult both emotionally and financially, to turn back.
Marriage may not be a continually sweet dream, but if couples proceed slowly, cautiously and wisely, they can avoid divorce or potential strife and heartbreak for themselves and their future family.
Written by Sea-hee Lee(epartment of Early Childhood Education)